vulnerability

Are you Listening?

If you have ever been talking to someone who is more interested in checking their phone than hearing you talk, I’m willing to bet you felt pretty different than when you were speaking to someone who was fully engaged in what you were saying. Some of the characteristics of the “not-so-great” listener might be…easily distracted,

Nothing to Offer

Have you ever noticed the version of your personality that comes front and center when you’re making new friends or in an unfamiliar social setting? Are you funny, charming, quiet, awkward, or serious? Do you find that you have a go-to persona that you pick up when you’re with new people? Well, I’ve been on

The Hiddenness in Waiting

So much of waiting includes hiddenness. You feel hidden. Your way feels hidden. God feels hidden. We live in a world that’s wired to investigate and uncover what’s hiding in order to expose a wrong or put a noteworthy thing on display. We only like mystery if we can solve it and figure it out,

The 3 R’s To Live By

When I first greet clients in the waiting area and take them back to my office whether it’s for our first or fortieth session they are usually feeling a combination of nervous, afraid, agitated, stressed, and any other possible emotion. If I were to try and plow full speed ahead into a deep conversation with

The Many Shades of Vulnerability

Somehow the word vulnerability has become a trendy “buzz word” over the past few years, and it’s actually fascinating when you consider that the definition is: “the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.” I would imagine that if you’re anything like me, the notion of

The Power in Being Heard By: Savannah Locke

I started going to therapy after realizing that thing my cousin did to me as a child was sexual abuse and the repercussions were resounding in my life a decade later. I don’t know how the brain works or why memories resurfaced during a summer abroad trip in England, but they did, so I began

Could Authentic Community Be a Solution to Anxiety?

Have you ever experienced that pit-in-your-stomach type of worry, or found yourself nervously biting off your newly manicured nails? Or how about hiding out in a bathroom stall because you were so overwhelmed and couldn’t catch your breath? These are all common human experiences that for many happen every day, and often make living life

To The New Girl

How many of us have sheepishly walked into a social event as the “new girl” with our hearts beating out of our chest as we clung to our phones for some semblance of comfort and security? One of my good friends and I had a conversation recently around this topic of making new friends, and

What Makes Change Possible?

You know when you suddenly become aware of something that up until that moment you had been completely oblivious to? Do you remember how you felt? Or what your reaction was to this new information? How about when you found out Santa Claus wasn’t real? Or when you look back on those pictures from when

Stand Still

The Oxford dictionary defines an unsung hero as, “a person who makes a substantive yet unrecognized contribution; a person whose bravery is unknown or unacknowledged.”  Life is full of unsung heroes, people who will never be recognized fully or at all for the vital contributions they’ve made. An unsung hero is basically the opposite of