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Practicing the Pause

Have you ever considered that what you do when you’re under stress actually reveals a lot about what’s going on under the surface? I just spent the last five days with my dear friends who were visiting from out of town, which is the best and I loved having them here, but whenever you host

Nothing to Offer

Have you ever noticed the version of your personality that comes front and center when you’re making new friends or in an unfamiliar social setting? Are you funny, charming, quiet, awkward, or serious? Do you find that you have a go-to persona that you pick up when you’re with new people? Well, I’ve been on

The Hiddenness in Waiting

So much of waiting includes hiddenness. You feel hidden. Your way feels hidden. God feels hidden. We live in a world that’s wired to investigate and uncover what’s hiding in order to expose a wrong or put a noteworthy thing on display. We only like mystery if we can solve it and figure it out,

The 3 R’s To Live By

When I first greet clients in the waiting area and take them back to my office whether it’s for our first or fortieth session they are usually feeling a combination of nervous, afraid, agitated, stressed, and any other possible emotion. If I were to try and plow full speed ahead into a deep conversation with

Relevant Magazine Feature

Follow my blog with Bloglovin “But when did we ever win in the end when we lowered our standards and dumbed down who we are to get what we think we want? I’m more convinced than ever that the right person will never ask you to diminish yourself so that they can be comfortable being

The Five Most Powerful Words

I haven’t been a counselor for very long but in the short time I’ve been practicing, the majority of clients I’ve worked with have endured some really traumatic experiences in their lives. It never ceases to amaze me how we never know what another person has gone through. The lady checking you out at the

Hope or Fear: What’s it Gonna Be?

At this same time last year I was in a quandary of sorts. I had been living in California for the last year and a half, and was two months shy of finishing my Counseling degree. For a year leading up to this point I had this mysterious but strong impression that something major was going to

A Random Act of Kindness

It was a really cold Saturday afternoon in Chicago two weeks before Christmas, and I was doing what basically every other person in the city was doing–going Christmas shopping, of course. On this particular December day it was so cold that literally every time you stepped out of your warm car or house you just

Have The Audacity To Interrupt

Moving to a big city has recently led me to contemplate social boundaries and their effects on connection. There are moments I wish they were more clearly established: like on the train, when I’m sitting between a man whose hands and face are covered in cheesy Pringles as he licks the powder out of the