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Are you Listening?

If you have ever been talking to someone who is more interested in checking their phone than hearing you talk, I’m willing to bet you felt pretty different than when you were speaking to someone who was fully engaged in what you were saying. Some of the characteristics of the “not-so-great” listener might be…easily distracted,

Nothing to Offer

Have you ever noticed the version of your personality that comes front and center when you’re making new friends or in an unfamiliar social setting? Are you funny, charming, quiet, awkward, or serious? Do you find that you have a go-to persona that you pick up when you’re with new people? Well, I’ve been on

The Hiddenness in Waiting

So much of waiting includes hiddenness. You feel hidden. Your way feels hidden. God feels hidden. We live in a world that’s wired to investigate and uncover what’s hiding in order to expose a wrong or put a noteworthy thing on display. We only like mystery if we can solve it and figure it out,

The 3 R’s To Live By

When I first greet clients in the waiting area and take them back to my office whether it’s for our first or fortieth session they are usually feeling a combination of nervous, afraid, agitated, stressed, and any other possible emotion. If I were to try and plow full speed ahead into a deep conversation with

The Power in Being Heard By: Savannah Locke

I started going to therapy after realizing that thing my cousin did to me as a child was sexual abuse and the repercussions were resounding in my life a decade later. I don’t know how the brain works or why memories resurfaced during a summer abroad trip in England, but they did, so I began

What Makes Change Possible?

You know when you suddenly become aware of something that up until that moment you had been completely oblivious to? Do you remember how you felt? Or what your reaction was to this new information? How about when you found out Santa Claus wasn’t real? Or when you look back on those pictures from when

A Hopeful Invitation

Have you ever been at the end of your rope, so to speak? I know I have. I’m not sure what picture comes to mind for you when you hear that saying, but for me I envision someone frantically pulling a rope towards themselves in the hopes that something promising would be attached to it.

The Five Most Powerful Words

I haven’t been a counselor for very long but in the short time I’ve been practicing, the majority of clients I’ve worked with have endured some really traumatic experiences in their lives. It never ceases to amaze me how we never know what another person has gone through. The lady checking you out at the

Hope or Fear: What’s it Gonna Be?

At this same time last year I was in a quandary of sorts. I had been living in California for the last year and a half, and was two months shy of finishing my Counseling degree. For a year leading up to this point I had this mysterious but strong impression that something major was going to