honesty

5 Steps For Exposing Shame

I’ve noticed a fascinating phenomenon recently in my work with clients. Not long after settling into our session they’ll share how frustrated they feel about a variety of behaviors and symptoms they’re experiencing. They feel stuck and hopeless because of this never ending cycle they find themselves in. It seems that no matter how hard

The Interruption of Pain

Have you ever noticed how inconvenient pain is? Whether it’s physical or emotional, there is never a good time for pain to come. Have you ever heard anyone say, “you know, I’m feeling pretty good today and I think if I got hit with some sort of physical or emotional pain I would be ok

Time to Stay

I was a part of one church for twenty eight years. Yes, you heard me right…twenty. eight. years. To me that was my normal, I couldn’t have imagined growing up any different. My parents joined our home church soon after they found God in the 70’s, and immediately fell in love with the grace message

Nothing to Offer

Have you ever noticed the version of your personality that comes front and center when you’re making new friends or in an unfamiliar social setting? Are you funny, charming, quiet, awkward, or serious? Do you find that you have a go-to persona that you pick up when you’re with new people? Well, I’ve been on

The Hiddenness in Waiting

So much of waiting includes hiddenness. You feel hidden. Your way feels hidden. God feels hidden. We live in a world that’s wired to investigate and uncover what’s hiding in order to expose a wrong or put a noteworthy thing on display. We only like mystery if we can solve it and figure it out,

The 3 R’s To Live By

When I first greet clients in the waiting area and take them back to my office whether it’s for our first or fortieth session they are usually feeling a combination of nervous, afraid, agitated, stressed, and any other possible emotion. If I were to try and plow full speed ahead into a deep conversation with

The Power in Being Heard By: Savannah Locke

I started going to therapy after realizing that thing my cousin did to me as a child was sexual abuse and the repercussions were resounding in my life a decade later. I don’t know how the brain works or why memories resurfaced during a summer abroad trip in England, but they did, so I began

Stand Still

The Oxford dictionary defines an unsung hero as, “a person who makes a substantive yet unrecognized contribution; a person whose bravery is unknown or unacknowledged.”  Life is full of unsung heroes, people who will never be recognized fully or at all for the vital contributions they’ve made. An unsung hero is basically the opposite of

The Why Behind the What

Follow my blog with Bloglovin For the last four years I’ve been a full-time photographer…those are words I never thought I would say. I get asked a lot how I got started, and honestly–I feel like that’s the best question to ask someone–Why did you start doing what you’re doing? Photography for me has been

It's Ok to Be Needy

Have you ever been convinced that because of how audacious your approach has been with God that somehow it was the same thing as being honest with Him? I had this ah-huh moment recently concerning a prayer that I’m pretty sure I’ve prayed at least a million times. You know, it’s that prayer you offer with so much passion and fervor, and instead