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My Therapeutic Journey By: April McLain

Ten years. Three therapists. One continuous journey. Finding the right therapist is absolutely crucial to you moving forward in growth, and out of the places holding you back. By having three different therapists in a ten year span I learned that you need different individuals for different seasons. I had one therapist in high school,

The Art of Listening: 3 Steps to Effective Listening

Relationships are hard. I was out with a friend not long ago and she was sharing about a difficult conversation she was having with her boyfriend. As she was a recounting the story to me she was also narrating her inner (and unspoken) thoughts and feelings that were all taking place during the conversation with

How To Find Freedom From Insecurity

Thanks to Brené Brown and the steady rise of awareness around mental health, the word vulnerability is everywhere. After a recent conversation with a friend where we were throwing around the word vulnerability and insecurity, I got curious and decided to look up the actual definitions for these words. When I did I made a shocking

Uncomplicating our Relationship with Change

We have a complicated relationship with change. It’s like a frustrating game of red light, green light. We want it (green light), but then we don’t want it (red light). We resist change and then beg for it. We want the positive results of change, but we don’t want to experience the journey it will

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words

One of the things I love the most about being a therapist is that every client I meet, and every story I hear, is so unique and different. There may be similar themes of pain, resilience, trauma, and hope, but the twists and turns of how these themes have played out are all so different.

5 Steps For Exposing Shame

I’ve noticed a fascinating phenomenon recently in my work with clients. Not long after settling into our session they’ll share how frustrated they feel about a variety of behaviors and symptoms they’re experiencing. They feel stuck and hopeless because of this never ending cycle they find themselves in. It seems that no matter how hard

Embracing Courage in Relationships By: Amanda Lutz

I’m one of those girls who would rather watch a superhero movie than a rom-com, the kind who had no idea there were different kinds of engagement rings, and the sort who planned on traveling the world being a free spirit (well, while Instagramming). The irony of sharing my thoughts on marriage is certainly not

The Interruption of Pain

Have you ever noticed how inconvenient pain is? Whether it’s physical or emotional, there is never a good time for pain to come. Have you ever heard anyone say, “you know, I’m feeling pretty good today and I think if I got hit with some sort of physical or emotional pain I would be ok

Practicing the Pause

Have you ever considered that what you do when you’re under stress actually reveals a lot about what’s going on under the surface? I just spent the last five days with my dear friends who were visiting from out of town, which is the best and I loved having them here, but whenever you host

Are you Listening?

If you have ever been talking to someone who is more interested in checking their phone than hearing you talk, I’m willing to bet you felt pretty different than when you were speaking to someone who was fully engaged in what you were saying. Some of the characteristics of the “not-so-great” listener might be…easily distracted,