authenticity

The Interruption of Pain

Have you ever noticed how inconvenient pain is? Whether it’s physical or emotional, there is never a good time for pain to come. Have you ever heard anyone say, “you know, I’m feeling pretty good today and I think if I got hit with some sort of physical or emotional pain I would be ok

Practicing the Pause

Have you ever considered that what you do when you’re under stress actually reveals a lot about what’s going on under the surface? I just spent the last five days with my dear friends who were visiting from out of town, which is the best and I loved having them here, but whenever you host

Time to Stay

I was a part of one church for twenty eight years. Yes, you heard me right…twenty. eight. years. To me that was my normal, I couldn’t have imagined growing up any different. My parents joined our home church soon after they found God in the 70’s, and immediately fell in love with the grace message

Nothing to Offer

Have you ever noticed the version of your personality that comes front and center when you’re making new friends or in an unfamiliar social setting? Are you funny, charming, quiet, awkward, or serious? Do you find that you have a go-to persona that you pick up when you’re with new people? Well, I’ve been on

The Hiddenness in Waiting

So much of waiting includes hiddenness. You feel hidden. Your way feels hidden. God feels hidden. We live in a world that’s wired to investigate and uncover what’s hiding in order to expose a wrong or put a noteworthy thing on display. We only like mystery if we can solve it and figure it out,

The 3 R’s To Live By

When I first greet clients in the waiting area and take them back to my office whether it’s for our first or fortieth session they are usually feeling a combination of nervous, afraid, agitated, stressed, and any other possible emotion. If I were to try and plow full speed ahead into a deep conversation with

The Many Shades of Vulnerability

Somehow the word vulnerability has become a trendy “buzz word” over the past few years, and it’s actually fascinating when you consider that the definition is: “the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.” I would imagine that if you’re anything like me, the notion of

Have The Audacity To Interrupt

Moving to a big city has recently led me to contemplate social boundaries and their effects on connection. There are moments I wish they were more clearly established: like on the train, when I’m sitting between a man whose hands and face are covered in cheesy Pringles as he licks the powder out of the